Sacramentum vs Simulacrum: Kajian Dogmatis Perkawinan Kristen dan Realitas Sosial Lavender Marriage
Abstract
The phenomenon of Lavender marriage has generally been examined within social and cultural frameworks, while its evaluation from the perspective of Christian dogmatic theology of marriage remains limited. This study aims to analyze Lavender marriage through the conceptual framework of sacramentum–simulacrum in order to assess the theological authenticity of marital relationships, employing a descriptive qualitative method based on literature review and theological-exegetical analysis of Genesis 1–2, Hosea 1–3, and Ezekiel 16. The findings indicate that marriage as sacramentum constitutes a covenantal unity encompassing essential, teleological, ethical, and sacramental dimensions, whereas Lavender marriage operates as a simulacrum that preserves the external form of marriage without embodying its theological meaning, particularly in terms of covenantal fidelity and relational openness. This distinction highlights the tension between social legitimacy and theological integrity in contemporary marital practices. This study contributes by formulating a systematic model of theological evaluation through the sacramentum–simulacrum dichotomy, while also providing a foundation for theological reflection and pastoral response within the church toward non-conventional forms of marriage.
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